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A message to stay-at-home moms – stay true to you

It’s entirely too easy to immerse yourself in motherhood and forget who you are when you’re a stay-at-home mom. You’ve entered a whole new world full of dirty diapers, bottles, tiny clothes and brand new responsibilities.

The first few months of a baby’s life are demanding while you both adjust to this new world together. However, before you attempt to morph into a super mom, taking on every challenge and forgetting about tending to you, stop and take a breath. Don’t forget about yourself.

Take a moment and consider a few questions. What hobbies do you enjoy? Do you have friends with whom you’d like to spend more time? What new activities have you considered? Who has offered to watch your baby so you can have some alone time? These are a number of the key questions to answer. I know it may seem impossible to nurture a hobby with a newborn, but it’s not as difficult as it may seem.

For example, let’s say that photography is your passion. Take the time to show off your skills. Record your baby’s growth by taking pictures every few weeks. If you’re too busy to collect the photos in scrapbooks, just store them for later when you do have more time. You also could show off your little one’s growth in a fantastic display using inexpensive collage frames. Or, how about using video? Send a few clips to relatives who live far away. This is a great way to stay in touch and show off your baby’s accomplishments and milestones.

Baby books can take on a whole new meaning if writing is your niche. Instead of using a book that simply requires you to fill in the blanks, opt for a blank journal with a cover that strikes your fancy. Take a few minutes out of your busy day to jot down what your baby has done or how your baby was feeling. You could write an entire page or just a sentence. Regardless, with a little time each day, this can become a treasured work of art for you and your child to enjoy.

Why stop at a baby book? Keeping a personal journal is great therapy and can help keep your life in perspective. Finding just a few minutes each day to jot down your thoughts and feelings, especially those that are hard to share with others, can remove a heavy load from your shoulders.

It can also help you relieve tension in a healthy way. Personal journals may become an invaluable outlet for moments when you feel overwhelmed or anxious. It would also be a great way to look back and see how you have changed over time, as well as how you handled certain situations. And, are you trying to lose those extra baby pounds? Record your activity and weight for an added incentive to stick to healthier living.

Are you the type who likes to get your fingers dirty in a flower bed? Don’t put off gardening simply because you’ve got a little one in tow. Involve them in the action as well. Toddlers love to get their hands dirty…although you might not always like the critters they find. Have patience with them when they pull the blooms off your plants. It’s a compliment to how beautiful the flowers are. If your child is too young to get her hands dirty, bring out the playpen and set it up in your garden. The screens around the playpen will keep bugs away from your baby while you are busy. All that fresh air and sunlight will do wonders for both of you.

In the end, it’s all about using your time wisely. Don’t lose sight of your passions or trade them in for household chores. Work time for them into your daily or weekly schedule. As your days become more predictable, you’ll be able to spend even more time on your hobbies. The important thing here is to keep your spirit lifted by nurturing and not neglecting who you are.

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